We recently went on a tour of Empathy…
We recently went on a tour of Empathy School and, afterwards, felt we'd made the right decision not to enrol our child. While the school grounds are spacious and have a quirky charm, the tour itself left us with a number of concerns.
The biggest issue for us was safeguarding. We'd booked the tour in advance via WhatsApp, but when we arrived there was no one there to greet us. In fact, there didn't seem to be any obvious reception or check-in point. We were able to walk straight off the public road and onto the school grounds and spent around 5–10 minutes wandering around before anyone approached us. During that time, we had unrestricted access to the site, and my husband even walked into an empty classroom while trying to find a member of staff. We weren't trying to go unnoticed—we were actively looking for someone to speak to—which made us wonder how easily someone with bad intentions could gain access to the school. Throughout the tour, we repeatedly passed a child who appeared to be wandering around the school alone looking lost and confused. We don't know the circumstances, but seeing this continue throughout our visit added to our concerns about supervision.
When we were eventually greeted, the welcome felt rather perfunctory. The member of staff who met us wasn't particularly warm or engaging, and showed very little interest in us or our son, who had come along to the tour.
A Grade 5 teacher then gave us a brief tour of the school. He was polite and friendly and, to his credit, did try to answer our questions, but admitted he couldn't really answer many of them. The tour mainly consisted of him pointing out different rooms: "This is the art room", "This is the science room", and so on. When he asked what Grade our son was in, I hesitated because he's homeschooled. He then commented that I seemed "nervous" and "tense", which felt like a rather odd thing to say and made the interaction slightly awkward.
At the end of the tour, we sat down with a member of the admin team to ask more about the school's educational approach. We were hoping to understand what made the school different from a mainstream school.
I mentioned that the owner refers to links with Harvard when describing the curriculum and asked whether the school was academically focused. I was told, "No, it's a nature school." I then asked how much of the children's time is spent outdoors in nature on the school grounds. The initial answer was around 20%, which was then revised to 30%. That didn't strike us as particularly different from many mainstream schools.
I also asked what curriculum the school follows and was told that learning is project-based—for example, if the topic is "the ocean", then maths, science and other subjects are taught through that theme. Again, this didn't sound especially unusual to me. I taught in mainstream schools for nearly 20 years, and thematic, cross-curricular learning is something many schools already do. We had been looking for a genuinely progressive alternative, but the school came across as rather disorganised and lacking a clear educational identity.
We left impressed by the space and the interesting layout of the school, but ultimately disappointed and uninspired by the tour.
We appreciate that we visited during the summer camp and understand that any school can have an off day. Even so, we'd have expected a more organised experience and greater enthusiasm from staff about the school and its educational philosophy.
Perhaps the most telling aspect for us was the overall lack of connection we experienced between staff and our son during the visit. Apart from the Grade 5 teacher asking him his name, whether he enjoyed woodcarving and whether he liked rabbits, we didn't feel there was much genuine engagement with him as a prospective pupil. We appreciated that the Grade 5 teacher did make an effort, but the interaction still felt quite awkward and didn't create the sense of warmth, ease and connection with children that we had hoped to find at a school called Empathy School.
The other three staff members we encountered during the tour, including the admin member we spoke with afterwards, did not acknowledge our son at all. For us, this was the most disappointing part of the visit, as we had hoped to see a school culture where children are naturally noticed, welcomed and valued. Unfortunately, this was not what we found, and alongside the safeguarding concerns mentioned earlier, it ultimately became a deciding factor in our decision not to enrol our son at the school.








