I’ve done a few high ticket coachings..
I‘m 35 and have done a few high ticket coaching programs over the years. Most of them were built around techniques, confidence hacks, attraction theory, basically “how to get the girl.” And honestly, a lot of those coaches knew their stuff. The problem for me personally was that I kept finding myself performing.
I’d learn what to say, how to carry myself, how to signal confidence, how to get laid. While these sort of helped and kinda worked, underneath it there was a feeling that I‘m playing a character.
What’s been different with Mathew is that none of that is the focus. He can give you „the lines“if you want then, he clearly understands all of that stuff, but that’s not where he takes you.
The actual work was figuring out what’s getting in my way in the first place. that meant sitting with the insecurities, the patterns, the beliefs I’d built up that made me feel like I needed a strategy to begin with. That’s a different kind of work than most people expect going in.
What I like most is that he’s just feels like an older bro who happens to know a lot. Conversations feel grounded, not like a session. He is very empathatic and always knew how to with my feelings of overwhelm - we‘d chunk it up, and go little by little. First coaching period was a very intensive 1:1 for 6 months, where i would consult him almost daily. I then decided to transition to a low touch mentorship. I also got to make friends with other guys from the community, where we support each other and help a brother out.
Over the course of 18 months i realize i have changed tremendously..
The biggest change hasn’t actually been in my dating life, it’s been in how I relate to myself. I’m more comfortable just being who I am and honestly that matters a lot beyond dating.
Because if you’re performing to attract someone, what are you doing once you’re actually in a relationship? Performing indefinitely? At some point that gets exhausting.
What Mathew helped me move toward is just owning where I’m at rather than trying to engineer a better version for public consumption. That shift has done more for my friendships, my work, and how I feel day to day than any technique ever came close to.