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4.9

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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I've watched the videos of pretty well every major counsellor in the relationship recovery field and this guy is easily head and shoulders above the rest. Incredibly engaging videos that explain both... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alexis is an absolute professional, after much studying on what happened and realizing my ex was an appointment I was lucky enough to seek out Alexis. As a former avoidant himself you truly sees thing... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I give Alexis a 5 star review. I went from not sleeping at night and being stalked by my ex(who dumped me overnight after a 2.5 yr relationship/situationship) on social media to moving on and developi... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I only spoke with Alexis once but he was so kind, so insightful, yet direct. It was just one session but he gave me hope. The next day I was back with ex. In hindsight I should of continued with Al... See more

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The Avoidant Therapist helps people who are stuck in anxious-avoidant relationships understand what is really happening, calm their attachment system, and make clear decisions about their love life. The Avoidant Therapist was founded by Alexis Friedlander, an attachment specialist, therapist and content creator based in London. Alexis is a former dismissive-avoidant who became securely attached, so he explains avoidant behaviour from the inside: why avoidant partners pull away, go quiet or end things suddenly, and what actually helps. Most of the people we work with are anxiously attached and dating, or recovering from a breakup with, an avoidant partner. They come to us overthinking, checking their phone, and unsure whether to stay, wait or walk away. Our work is built on the Secure Base Method, a four-stage process: Calm: settle the anxiety and break the addiction loop. Reprogram: change the beliefs and patterns driving the dynamic. Expose: practise secure communication in real situations. Decide: choose, from a secure place, whether this relationship is right for you. We offer the Secure Base coaching programme, one-to-one coaching, live events and masterclasses, alongside more than 380 free videos on The Avoidant Therapist YouTube channel, where over 27,000 subscribers have been learning about attachment for the past seven years. Clients tell us they chose us because the approach is genuine, ethical and practical, with no manipulation tactics and no promises to "get your ex back". The goal is your own security, whatever happens with the relationship. Master your attachment, you master your relationships. Learn more at theavoidanttherapist.com


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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Knowledge, Experience and Empathy

Knowledgable, experienced and empathetic relationship coaches. They provide useful strategies and tools to help manage the emotional fallout of the breakup, and direct you along the path of self-care before anything else. Thanks to Alexis for posting inspiring and insightful content, and to Elizabeth for guiding me through this time of reflection and growth through our coaching sessions.

January 19, 2024
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alexis's unique WhatsApp coaching…

Alexis's unique WhatsApp coaching method has helped me through many darkest periods where I needed to chat with him or simply vent my anxieties or thoughts with him without having to wait for a scheduled face to face call. I am always apologetic about my rants on whatsapp but he encourages me as it helps him to assess how my mind was processing the issue and how I was feeling emotionally consequentially. At the end of the day, I realised that he has been working on me to be more secure with myself and has helped me immensely in the journey of getting back together with my ex. :)

October 24, 2023
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Rated 4 out of 5 stars

The coaching is great

The coaching is great. The knowledge i gained about myself, relationships, and breakups was enormous. The advice on how to proceed daily was helpful... what to do and what not to do again. The insight into what my ex is most likely thinking. Sometimes there's nothing to do... just be patient and wait. The only thing is I haven't gotten my ex back, but I'm not sure that its Alexis's fault... and who knows maybe my story with my ex isn't over just yet. Me being in Central time zone and Alexis in London time is sometimes a challenge.

May 5, 2023
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I’ve received solid advice

I’ve received solid advice. It’s been months of back and forth and it’s been extremely helpful to bounce ideas and thoughts off of Alexis to see what the right responses and reactions should be. His advice has helped me be patient with the process and let it unfold organically. Things are headed in the right direction for sure.

March 16, 2023
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Honest and trustworthy

The honest, transparent explanations help me the most. It’s not sugar coated. Though my ex and I are not back together, we have plans to meet a second time now and I have learned how to navigate the situation gracefully to give me the best chance of us getting back together. Thank you a hundred times over.

March 4, 2023
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Great insight into how the break-up…

Great insight into how the break-up process works, does make you more confident watching the videos. Just a shame a lot of people like myself can’t afford to get further help because I truly believe it would save so many relationships!

March 2, 2023
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

*Very* insightful advice

Very insightful advice. I would have walked from a perfectly good relationship because i didn't understand attachment styles and would not have worked out that the breakup was not because of me. I am in a happier (and more secure) place directly because of the advice and understanding i got

January 1, 2023
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alex is honest and genuine, in a field that can feel “scammy”

Alex gave me a free consultation and told me that my situation needed to change a bit, in order for his advice to be relevant. He didn’t take my money! If my situation does change, I will go to him 100%, as he is such a trustworthy person who seems to genuinely care about his clients and adding value to their lives.

March 1, 2023
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Rated 4 out of 5 stars

Made me think twice...

Every time I felt the urge to reach out to my ex, I would watch these videos. It would give me the strength and reassurance that going no contact is the best thing to do in my current situation.

January 16, 2023
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I only spoke with Alexis once but he…

I only spoke with Alexis once but he was so kind, so insightful, yet direct. It was just one session but he gave me hope. The next day I was back with ex. In hindsight I should of continued with Alexis because it didn't last, but regardless, I still look at Alexis as a true source of information as I navigate my recent break-up.

June 6, 2022
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alexis is a god send

Alexis is a god send! He helped me get my ex back! I feel it was in part do to his coaching, ok all because of his coaching! If you are like me you have been all over youtube watching , he stands out. Wish I could buy him a beer! I not only got my ex back, but learned so much and I hope that leads to keeping her!!!

August 4, 2022
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Excellent experience

Alexis has been extremely helpful not only through his insightful videos but by actually taking the time to listen to my specific situation and give advice. Thanks to Alexis, I am now finally ready to break a cycle of doing things that don't work and change the approach to reconnecting with my partner. I highly recommend doing the test of whether you have a chance to get your ex back and if you do then definitely reach out to Alexis with your specific case! All of us could use a help of a coach or a counsellor especially when it comes to relationships and after spending a lot of time online looking for answers I am happy to have found Alexis!

June 30, 2022
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